|Tuesday, March 11th, 2014 at 9:22 PM - Newbie with a leak! Please help with this learning curve!|
Hello - first off thanks for all of the helpful comments! I am really amazed at how nice & helpful everyone on here is, esp. when discussing one of the most personal places and moments in the month!
Background: saw an interesting post, got period, went to Wholefoods one option avail = Diva Cup, bought it
Me: 35, non virgin, no kids, heavy flow
I spent 3 days in my home trying to get this down & I am super frustrated. I do not want to use tampons but crikey this seems overly complicated!
I have read the comments re: ignoring the twist (good bc mine doesn't want to twist once inside), I have checked that it's open and I have gotten that down but I leak! Boy am I leaking - but its also catching some which is perplexing - how can it get some but still leak?? I don't think this is that the sides or vagjayjay was drippy inside - this is an all out hose down. I forced myself to go to work the 4th day but gave up halfway through & just took it out - and I cant tell (like with a tampon) if its leaking or I am just paranoid - in this case it's a little of both. It seems to work overnight - maybe because I am lying down. I am forcing myself to wear it and not give up buuutttt: sitting down = leak, standing = leak, sitting here typing this = leak (maybe- this might just be paranoia) and now I am frustrated & feeling like I don't know how to use my MC or vag correctly!
I have tried: twisting (which I thought something was wrong because I cannot twist it 360, ever) just tried several folds, clearing holes, using finger to ensure it's open without indentations, bearing down while inserting, using muscles to grab & pull up, etc. and yet still I am leaking. Tried reinserting (nearly all morning at work and every evening when I get home I put it back in in the shower leak several times (reinsert each time) then go to bed (no problems overnight - SO weird - then reinsert in the am and leak before I am even done applying makeup!
For full disclosure even though I am 35 I never attempted a cervix hunt - I think I have found it but no totally sure if I hit the "nose"... sometimes it has felt like the pulley is too long (probably incorrectly inserted as I have tried not going too far up, way far up, aiming in different directions, etc. but I don't mind the size/length of the diva cup (occasionally feel a slight cramping but that was experienced with tampons so thinking vag just doesn't like this time overall - me either) only that it keeps freaking leaking! I know there's a "learning curve" but omgosh!
PS I would prefer to figure this out with this one cup before buying a bunch of different ones, these aren't that cheap and so wish the post I read had listed a link to this forum!! Anyway, anyone with helpful advice or info - -> Please help!
|Sunday, March 9th, 2014 at 10:37 AM - Yuuki, Fleur and Sckoon for a newbie.|
Hello fellow cuppers.
I'm brand new to the world of cups. I discovered them while trying to find ways to manage my period when I go hiking next year.
Looking at all the charts I believe I have narrowed my choice down to either a large Fleurcup, Large Yuuki Soft or Large Sckoon. I will probably buy a smaller cup as well in the future, most likely a Lunette. I have looked through most of the relevant tags here and read so many different posts and faqs - I'm pretty sure I have a decent idea of my needs and possible issues.
As I live in Australia, it is very difficult (nearly impossible) find any cups in store, locally, so I have never been able to even hold a cup. I'm rather curious how each of these compare to each other practically. As I said, I've read all the charts but I was after some personal experience from those who have used more than one of these. They are all different shapes and slightly different sizes, with different stem lengths and I was wondering if any of these differences had a huge impact on whether a cup worked for you - what made you chose one over the other?
While at the moment money is not a huge issue, I would rather not have to buy all three at once. I know I can get the fleurs cheap now, feminine wear have a 10% off sale, and I can get all the Yuuki's pretty cheaply with free postage from ebay (that's if they're genuine - I've seen no feedback to say they're not; and the seller name is 'yuukicup' [maybe just another play to make the fraudulent seem genuine]). Unless anyone knows of another store that can do even better prices and still ship to Australia at a decent price. Amazon seem to have some excellent deals sometimes but usually some ridiculous postage cost attached.
Just a bit of personal information, I'm 23, a virgin (although my hymen seems a bit stretched from sport, hiking and tampon use), my cervix seems to sit at 8-9cms during ovulation and anywhere between 4 and 7 cms during my heaviest days. My middle finger is just on 7cms long, and I can just reach my cervix while bearing down a little, and taking into account how much of my finger won't fit in because of the angle 4-7 seems a pretty accurate estimate and makes it very much easier to chose a cup.
I consider my flow pretty heavy during the first 72 hours, I can fill a regular tampon (up to 11g) in four hours, and a super tampon (14g) in 6-7 hours. The next two to three days are moderate bleeding (I change a regualar tampon every 5 hours and it is not quite full, maybe another hour of use in it) fading into very light, to spotting and residual. Any advice is appreciated.
Thanks for sharing and for any advice; maybe there's something out there I had not considered.
|Current Location: ||Australia, Melbourne|
|Tags: || age, brand comparisons, buying decisions, cervix position, first time use, fleurcup, hymen, lunette, sckoon, sckooncup, sizes/size issues, travel, where to buy, yuuki
|Thursday, March 6th, 2014 at 12:53 PM - Release #112: New photo uploader, 2 new styles|
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|Thursday, March 6th, 2014 at 5:47 AM - New Cup User with Problems: Please Help!|
Due to this being an extremely long post, I've put an LJ cut on it (I think - I'm not familiar with LJ) and summarized my questions below the cut. For those of you who feel like you need more details, you have the option available to you (not to mention I didn't want those details to go to waste after typing them all!) :)( Details HereCollapse )
- 17 years old, virgin, no children, irregular cycle, very high cervix, Diva Cup, looking to buy another (extra) cup. Very little research done initially.
- Problem with suction. Cannot get the cup to open fully when inserted, and when I get it opened before it's fully inserted, I tend to bend the cup and crush the seal in an attempt to push it upwards. The best luck I've had is using the stem to push it upwards so that I don't accidentally ruin the seal that's been created. Is this problem due to being the cup being too large, the way I fold it (c/u fold), the way its situated, angle, etc.? Or simply a learning curve?
- Stem trimmed 1 notch. Having problems with discomfort caused by it rubbing against the vaginal walls and causing pain, particularly when walking. Want to trim all of it off (because I know I'd have no problems with removal) but am afraid I won't be able to insert it if I did so. Should I look for a cup with a different kind of grip (like the ball grip on some MeLunas)?
- Due to severe arthritis in the hands, I need easy folds and (potentially) a way to make the cup easier to hold after being folded, rather than worrying about preventing it from coming undone due to a weak grip. Any folds that are particularly easy to do, or any cups that are easier to fold than others? Would a "softer" cup help in this area or only worsen things?
- My cup doesn't leak at all, but I still experience discomfort for about 30 minutes (sometimes longer) after insertion. Is this from being inserted wrong, from the cup readjusting itself into a more comfortable position, or just my body getting used to having it in?
- Does anyone have any recommendations on what my next brand of cup should be (cup MUST have measuring lines, preferably both mL and oz) based on the information above? Or would I be better off buying a second Diva Cup?
- Does anyone have an accurate list of cups that have measuring lines and their units (mL, oz)?
|Tuesday, March 4th, 2014 at 9:49 PM - Cervix and suction issues|
I am desperately trying to become a cup user. It's taken me several months and two different cups to even be able to have questions to ask.I have only been able to insert the cup twice: the first time I got so freaked out about having it in even though I've used tampons regularly, that I immediately took it out. The second time, a few days ago on my 1st day of my period, I got it in and made myself keep it in for an hour and a half before taking it out. Now whenever I put the cup in, the entire stem and the bottom of the cup sit outside of my vagina. The stem is even as low as a tampon string would be. I have tried kegaling it up and pushing it up farther but with no luck. I know that my cervix sits low throughout my cycle except when I'm ovulating. Even now on my 4th day of my period, my cervix is only about an inch high. Is there such a thing has having too low of a cervix for cups? By the way, I use a sckoon cup, size small. My first cup was a diva size 1 before I knew other cups existed. I was never able to insert that one. The only fold I've been able to insert with is the origami fold. I am also 27, no kids, not a virgin.
The other issue I'm having is with turning and suction. When I try to insert it and get it into place as best as I can, I try turning the cup to create the suction, but I can't get the cup to suction. As long as I turn the cup, it will keep spinning. I try to feel around to find a place where it hasn't popped open but I can't find one. I also have never heard the suction sound, but when I feel alongside the cup it feels like my cervix is in it and the cup doesn't feel unopened. The one time I was able to leave the cup in, I didn't have any leaking issues and the cup collected fluid.
I really want to be successful with this; especially considering the time and money I've put in to this! Not to mention that I am so ready to be done with tampons and pads!
|Tuesday, March 4th, 2014 at 11:07 AM - Removal Issues (New User w/ Diva Cup)|
25 yo female, never given birth. I've been lurking around here forever. I finally decided to jump into the menstrual cup world following my decision to discontinue hormonal birth control. My periods without HBC are much heavier, and tampons are a nuisance.
I bought a Diva Cup in Size 1 yesterday. I'm currently having my period. My first insertion and removal yesterday were not too difficult. I didn't have any leaking other than what I assume was a bit of residual blood when I wiped after peeing.
This morning, not so great. I tried to remove it while squatting in the tub, but every time I reached for it, it felt like I pushed it further up there. I could barely reach the stem, let alone the base. The cup's stem was basically blocked by my pubic bone, making it very difficult to get at. After a few tries and a few breaks to calm myself down, I finally got it out. I'm having the same issues trying to remove it a few minutes ago, and decided to step away from it for a few hours.
I really don't want to give up on this, because I love everything about it besides the removal process. Is my cervix just super high? Will removal get easier over time? Is my vagina just a weird shape? I really don't want to have to send my SO up there after it with pliers...
|Saturday, March 1st, 2014 at 2:40 PM - Help Please?|
Warning: I try not to hold back on my description...y'all seemed to be pretty open people when it comes to your anatomy and what goes on down there, so I think I'm good..if not..just uh, walk on by if this sort of thing bothers you.
Well, I've jumped through quite a few hoops to try and figure out how to post to this forum...I apologize in advance if this is placed in the wrong spot, or somehow just...not right haha, but I *reallY* need some help.
So I've been reading about menstrual cups and reusable pads for ages now...I want to say about two years. After deciding reusable pads were too expensive, and seemed quite messy in comparison to the cup, I decided to order my first cup.
I ordered the Lady Cup in a size small about 6 months ago. I was so excited for my period to get here so I could try it out. Well, being a 16 year old virgin, I hadn't had anything up there. I hadn't even used tampons before this. I've heard about the whole abrasive fibers and TSS risk thing and I thought "How about no..."
When I tried to insert the cup, I had immediate pain. It wasn't something that was unbearable, but it was *very* uncomfortable. The cup, even though it's one of the smallest, was just too large. I figured "Well, best experiment with tampons then" ... so that's what I did. I put it off for a few months, but finally, about three cycles ago, I started using tampons. *insert Aladdin and Jasmine singing "a whole new world" here* It was so much nicer than wearing a pad. I knew that if I could master this, I could master the cup eventually.
Well, fast forward a couple months and you've reached last night. Last night I decided to try my cup (I dunno where the motivation came from..) again since getting used to inserting things into my vagina. It was a little difficult to say the least. This is where the questioning comes in.
- One, the dang thing kept popping open and slipping when I was trying to insert it. It would snap before I even got it in, which didn't feel too great. It also painted a "pretty" Friday the 13th scene on the wall in front of me. Gross. I tried the C fold, the 7 fold, and the push down (I think that's the last one...push in? push down? I'm sure you get the point) The pushdown worked the best for me in the end, but with every fold it seemed like I'd have to grab close to the mouth of the cup to keep it from popping open prematurely. If I did that, I couldn't fit the cup (with my fingers still attached to it) inside me. If I grabbed closer to the bottom, that thing would pop open and I'd have to start over.
Is there a nifty trick to keep this from happening??
- Second problem was removing it the next morning. After the fiasco of getting it in, I was quite proud of myself. It wasn't very comfortable though. A tampon, I can forget it's there. This one wasn't TERRIBLY uncomfortable, but I was definitely aware of its presence...Anyways, I'm going to dig into the little "sub problems"
Sub problem 1: The thing traveled way up in there. I couldn't see the stem anymore! I couldn't get my fingers up far enough to break the seal. It's a tight squeeze in there, and trying to maneuver my fingers through there was NOT easy. I don't know how but I somehow broke the seal with some wiggling and squeezing.
Sub problem 2: while the wiggling and squeezing wasn't a problem, taking it out was the worst thing I had ever felt down there (at this point) I watched a video last night to prepare myself. They said angle it down so it didn't hit your urethra because that's what hurts...also to push down on it and create almost like a c-fold inside you. Well, I tried that and it felt like someone took a knife to my personal area. When I finally got it out, it snapped open and again, like I mentioned earlier, that did NOT feel good.
I decided that the cup deserved another shot...it only took me a few tries this time, and I got it in there. The suction was different than the last time...last time I heard it, but didn't feel it. This time was the opposite. I felt the cup suck itself inwards (you know, when you suck on a juice pouch and it collapses?) I decided it was sealed, and I'd just let it go. Well I began to feel very uncomfortable, so about two or three hours later, I decided to take the thing out again and just wear a pad..enough experimenting for one day...holy lord that was the most painful thing I've ever been through.
It was the same pain as before, but only intensified. I tried everything I could do to not irritate myself, but nothing worked. 45 seconds of holding back screams later, and the little demon cup was out. I felt like it had something to do with the big rim..but when I see it in comparison to other cups, it's the same size if not smaller. Either way I do *NOT* want to put my cup back in if I'm going to have that much pain and difficulty taking it out...
So I guess my question is how can I make insertion a little easier, and how on earth do I take it out with as little pain as possible??
I know other questions have been similar to mine, but I hadn't found a question relating to a person of my age who is also a virgin.
Again, my apologies if this is in the wrong place...I just really want to use my cup.
|Saturday, March 1st, 2014 at 2:10 PM - Smaller cup manufacturers - how can we be sure of safety?|
I'm not trying to scaremonger, I'm really not! It's just something I'm curious about, especially on the back of worries about the safety of the dyes used for coloured cups.
So... how can we be sure that any given cup is completely safe to use? I'm talking mostly about the smaller manufacturers, especially those outside of the US, Canada and EU (where product safety regulations are generally much stricter). Many of these smaller cup manufacturers either don't have websites or don't really put any information on them, and quite a few are (in my experience) not so good at answering e-mails. Compare that with more mainstream companies - like Meluna, for example - who are absolutely on top of safety testing and amazingly forthcoming about their products; always ready with full data for every part of their manufacturing process if you send them an e-mail.
When a (smaller) company gives the customer so little real information, then, how can we know that their cup actually is what they say it is? How can we be sure that their 'medical grade silicon' is as good as any other company's; that there are no harmful additives used in the manufacturing process, and no chemical contamination?
I guess I'm thinking particularly about Cuplee here, because I've been having a really hard time finding any information on their cups/manufacturing process/safety testing at all. As much as I like Meluna as a company, their cups never really worked for me - even the soft versions were uncomfortable in the larger sizes that I really need - whereas the Cuplee is so perfect I forget I'm wearing it at all.
|Saturday, March 1st, 2014 at 12:41 PM - Broken Ring?|
I had a strange accident with my Meluna yesterday. I was removing it as usual - broke the seal, pulled on the ring, and then the ring quite literally came apart under my fingers. Now there's a crack right down the bottom of the ring, it's almost completely split in two but for a tiny sliver of material. (I'll take a picture as soon as I can.) I've looked through the tag, but haven't found anything - so has this, or something like this, ever happened to anyone before? I find it a bit weird that the ring would just break like that.
Also, do you think I should email the company about this? I've read great things about Meluna customer service, but my cup is over a year old, so I don't know if they'd offer me a replacement. (I'm not even sure if I want one. I might just cut off the ring entirely and keep using the cup.)
Thanks in advance! :)
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|Saturday, March 1st, 2014 at 6:41 PM - problems inserting fleurcup|
Been lurking for ages - this community has been super helpful!
I'm new to cups and have been using one for the last 2 cycles.
Anyway, after I discovered that there was indeed an alternative over trying to fit 2 pads and 3 tampons in the pockets of my work clothes to last through my shift, I went a bit overboard and ordered 2 cups at the same time...:)( cut for length, pics insideCollapse )
Thanks so much in advance! :)